Erectile Dysfunction - Overcoming The Shame of Male Impotence

Erectile dysfunction or male impotence is inability to attain or sustain erection of the penis. The man is sexually aroused. His wife is burning with desire. It's time for the husband to perform.

But as long as the penis cannot harden, as long as the man cannot have an erection, no meaningful sex can take place. The inability to achieve or sustain an erection often inhibits sexual satisfaction and makes the man feel embarrassed or even ashamed. He knows what he's supposed to do. He wants to do it. He desires it. His wife desires it.

But his manhood fails him. Can you imagine the frustration?

The man with erectile dysfunction or male impotence is usually frustrated that he cannot perform his manly duties. He feels inadequate and less than a man.

His wife too is frustrated because she cannot enjoy the warmth and excitement of sexual intercourse. And she fears that this may be a burden she will live with all her life.

The silent frustration may turn into anger and self pity. If not properly handled, the relationship may suffer a major blow.

If you're a man suffering from erectile dysfunction (male impotence), what can you do?

First, you must understand what the problem is.

The problem is not that you're destined to sexual misfortune nor is it that you're under some spiritual attack. It's simply that something is not right. Your system is not functioning the way it should.

Let me explain.

During sexual intercourse the penis is thrust into the female sexual organ or vagina repeatedly by the back and forth motion of the man. This motion causes the penis to rub against the walls of the vagina again and again inspiring unique sensations in both parties.

The thought of those sensations linger long after the act, thereby fueling the desire for future copulation.

The penis is able to penetrate the vagina because blood flows to the penile vessels during arousal causing the penis to expand. That expansion results in the hardening of the penis. Consequently, it develops the toughness to penetrate the walls of the female organ.

A man suffering from erectile dysfunction basically has a penis that has lost the ability to expand. Blood does not flow to the appropriate areas during sexual excitement and so he cannot penetrate his wife. In turn, if he cannot penetrate his wife, sexual intercourse is inhibited and frustration and anger sets in.

Bottom line.

You have a medical problem.

Second, understand that you're not doomed to live without sexual enjoyment all your life. In simple English, this means there is a solution to your medical condition.

Third, be open with your wife and show some understanding. Sex is big deal for women. Some women actually flirt or seek divorce when they discover the husband cannot perform his sexual obligations. So, if she's worried, she has a right to be.

Discuss the situation with her. Understand her fears. Comfort her.

Fourth, get medical help. Consult your doctor. Take appropriate medication.

Some medications have been found to restore ability to enjoy normal sexual intercourse. An example that readily comes to mind is Viagra and Cialis.

However, there is a problem.

Many many are too embarrassed to admit they have a sexual problem. They can talk to their wives about it. But approaching a doctor and opening up to him, is usually a big challenge.

Why is this so?

It's a psychological thing. It has to do with fear of stigmatization. There is a sort of social stigma associated with a man not able to do the job of a man. In some circles, he is said to be "less than a man".

Dear, friend:

Do not let fear of "social stigma" prevent you from discussing your erectile dysfunction case with your medical doctor. You need help. The doctor is there to help. So go for it.

Do the right thing. Satisfy your partner sexually.

Sex is a wonderful delight between a man and his wife. It is a crowning bonus to love and romance.

Enjoy satisfying sexual intercourse with your mate. Don't let erectile dysfunction or male impotence stop you.

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